Paradoxically, benefit is derived by the self-interest of the ego when it begins to realize that there is a great advantage to unselfishness. When it learns of the benefit of letting go of egocentric goals, the ego itself then becomes the springboard to spiritual inquiry and the means to its own transcendence, realizing that humility is strength and not weakness, and that it is wisdom and not ignorance. The willingness to “forgive and forget” calibrates at 450 (reason/logic). The willingness to “forgive and surrender to God” calibrates at 540 (unconditional love).
The Ego is Not the Real You, pg. 42