Accept Limitation Rather than Fault

It is helpful to realize that the anger is not at what ‘is’, but at what ‘is not’.  We are angry not because someone is selfish or stingy, as we think, but actually because they are not considerate, generous, or loving.  If recontextualized is done in this way, then people are seen as being limited rather than wrong.  Each person has developed only up to a specific point in their evolution, and therefore, it is easier to see and accept limitation rather than fault.

From The Eye of the I, p. 365