…The willingness to let go the payoffs of the ego, the gratifications, the feelings of justification, the willingness to feel victorious at another personās expense. What you have to remind yourself is, although what youāre getting out of this ego position has a certain pleasure, it is not happiness. You get pleasure out of turning the knife in somebodyās back, but you donāt get happiness out of it. So, if you let go of the pleasure of
revenge, letās say, what you get is the happiness of being a freer,
more loving, and therefore self-loving spirit. So, there is an enormous payoff. You get back far more than you let go of.
The Evolution of Consciousness: Ch. 5, pg. 152
Note: This book contains the transcriptions from the 2002 lectures, March and April.