…The willingness to let go the payoffs of the ego, the gratifications, the feelings of justification, the willingness to feel victorious at another person’s expense. What you have to remind yourself is, although what you’re getting out of this ego position has a certain pleasure, it is not happiness. You get pleasure out of turning the knife in somebody’s back, but you don’t get happiness out of it. So, if you let go of the pleasure of
revenge, let’s say, what you get is the happiness of being a freer,
more loving, and therefore self-loving spirit. So, there is an enormous payoff. You get back far more than you let go of.
The Evolution of Consciousness: Ch. 5, pg. 152
Note: This book contains the transcriptions from the 2002 lectures, March and April.