“Everybody has their quirks. So easygoing-ness of course is an ideal which most of us find difficult to be that way all the time. So, some of these qualities, the value they have to us is they act like pointers. When something throws you out of easygoing-ness, that’s something in your self. So, all these things are valuable. Therefore, you take what you consider, from a spiritual viewpoint, a negative and you turn it into a positive. It’s like a light going on “Look here” “Look here” “Look here”… So, when you’re not easy going, when you’re not thoughtful, when you’re not tolerant, when you’re not calm, etc. then that is pulling up something that you gotta clear.
And how do you clear it. You clear it by looking within yourself and finding it there, owning it, forgiving yourself for it, because everyone is a fallible human being. So the kindness that you show to yourself, the willingness to forgive yourself, then transfers into willingness to forgive others out there.
So, instead of feeling guilt about the negative, what you do is ya turn lemons into lemonade.”